Category - Faith

Why I like to sit in the back

Jennifer at As Cozy As Spring tells us some tales from Mass and it reminded me of my own funny Mass Stories.

First, you’ll be happy to know that Bip and I have graduated from the crying room and have joined the family right up in the front row. This is my own personal purgatory for a childhood spent of thinking about anything but Mass, because like all good womb to tomb Catholics, I abhor the first row. The second row, maybe, but given my choice I’ll pick a nice row right in the middle. Never the first row.

But Philip lets the children pick where we sit, and they always head for the front where they can see best.

Like Jennifer’s daughter, Pumpkin Girl gets a subscription to Magnifikids so she can follow along with the Mass. When I’m able to, I peek over her shoulder so I can read along, too. I’m one of those people who learn best by reading and I got cut out of the loop when churches stopped providing Missalets. I have a hard time paying attention if my only option is to listen. At least from the front row I can’t count how many women have short hair versus how many have long hair.

Anyway, so Pumpkin gets her Magnifikids as we’re leaving for Mass. She and Boo argue every single time over who is going to get to read Brother Goodventure first. The solution is always the same, she reads it out loud while Boo looks on. We go through this every week. Every week people!!!

disneycrocs.jpgNow Bip, who is very busy being 2, has reached the Me Do It stage. Which means that very often he puts his Mickey Crocs on the wrong foot, with the strap facing forward, thus increasing the odds that one of his shoes is going to fall off. Sometimes we can convince him that we can help him and rotate that strap back behind his heel, other times not.

Now it just so happens that his foot, with croc on, is the exact same width as the space between two lowered kneelers. You know what’s coming, don’t you? He kept getting his foot caught between the kneelers and would yell out, “Aah! ‘tuck!” (stuck). And I’d reach down and pull his foot out. Leaving the croc behind of course, prompting him to yell, “Aah! Croc!” So I’d pull the croc out and try to put it on his foot, which caused him to yell, “ME!” Three different times we do this, “Aah! ‘tuck!,” “Aah! Croc!,” “ME!”. From the front row. Finally I leaned down and whispered to him, “Stop getting stuck.” And he looked up at me with those big brown eyes and said, ” tay” (okay). And he stayed unstuck for the rest of the Mass.

It’s a good thing he’s cute.

Kitchen Madonna Corner

Waltzing Matilda has asked to see our Kitchen Madonna’s in our homes.  Being happy to oblige, I took this picture:

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She sits on a small Longaberger Baker’s Rack that is the coffee station.  To take this picture, I actually had to move some stuff out of the way and what is that, a ball of twine?  Let’s pull back a little and take a look.

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Well, that doesn’t seem like a very nice spot for Our Lady, now does it?  I can barely see her, let alone be inspired by her, all hidden by who knows what.   So what turned started off as just a simple picture turned into another episode from the Corners of My Home.  This was a quick a simple one.  First, I pulled everything out of that corner and gave the counter a wipe down.  Then I put things back, but only those things that actually pertain to making coffee.  And my Kitchen Madonna, of course.  Everything else got put away.  Here’s my new and improved corner.

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Much nicer, much more user friendly and a much better spot for my Kitchen Madonna.  I moved her to the top shelf, too, so I can see her more easily, especially over the dish drainer.

You can check out my progress in decluttering my house at Corners of My Home.

Lost!

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St. Anthony, St. Anthony
Please come down
Something is lost
And can’t be found

 

Yoikes! Bip has lost his favorite stuffed animal, a dolphin named “Whee”. He’s been walking around for the last couple of days saying, “Whee? Whee?”. Could you join me in petitioning good ol’ St. Anthony for his help and intercession? Or for my Protestant buddies, just a quick prayer to the Big Man himself?

“St. Anthony, perfect imitator of Jesus, who received from God the special power of restoring lost things, grant that I may find [name the item] which has been lost. At least restore to me peace and tranquility of mind, the loss of which has afflicted me even more than my material loss. To this favor, I ask another of you: that I may always remain in possession of the true good that is God. Let me rather lose all things than lose God, my supreme good. Let me never suffer the loss of my greatest treasure, eternal life with God. Amen.”

 

 

Pentecost Celebration

After Saturday’s Mass, our homeschool group put on a Pentecost play, followed by a potluck and party. The kids were really pleased when our priest and a few of the parishioners stayed for the play and even the food. The children wrote the play themselves and came up with the games for the party.

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Above: The Apostles and Mary (as played by Pumpkin Girl, wearing the blue veil in the center) are gathered together.

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Above: Mary and the Apostles have received the Holy Spirit and tongues of fire appeared over their heads. As the Holy Spirit walked behind each child, they each said something like “Jesus is the Messiah” in a foreign language. My children chose French and Spanish, to reflect their Franco-Hispanic culture. 😉 The littlest children said their lines in English. At the end, the children sang “Happy Birthday” to the Catholic Church.

At the party, we had a church building contest using blocks and legos.

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The older boys built the winner of Best Basilica. Most of them are altar servers, so they paid great attention to the details of the church.


Winner of Best Native American-Inspired Church

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Boo and Pumpkin Girl worked on the Winner of Best Modern Church. From the top you could see they also built an altar and pews inside. Their altar server fell down:
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Pumpkin Girl remembered a recipe for cookies with crosses in them from a Clubhouse Jr magazine. Most of them turned out really well.
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We also played “Pin the Cross to the Steeple” and “Saint Tag.” A great time was had by all.

First Communion

Boo made his First Holy Communion yesterday. I could try to say something insightful and poignant, but I’ll let the pictures speak for themselves. I do want to say that we were very blessed to have my parents and my cousin here with us. And of our little Catholic homeschooling group, 3 of the families had First Communicants and the other families came to the same Mass in support. It was so special to be surrounded by the important people in Boo’s life.

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I hung up our Easter garden flag for the day. Boo had a new suit, complete with a cross tie-tack from my grandma. Pumpkin Girl looks more and more like me every day. Bip is looking like a proud member of the toddler maffia. He refused to wear any other shoes but his red Mickey Mouse crocs.

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Boo was delightfully surprised to find that his banner was actually hanging right up front. You can see part of it on the left.

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Amen!

On Being a Catholic Using Sonlight

I mentioned earlier that I enjoy reading the Sonlight Curriculum catalog and I know I’ve mentioned that many times that we use Sonlight. I think most of you know that we’re Catholic. Jamie asked me for advice at how to use Sonlight as a Catholic.

First, let me admit that I am not a Sonlight expert. We have used Sonlight (SL) for our entire homeschool experience which as I write this, is 4 years: pre-K through 2nd.

I love using SL because of all the wonderful books, many of which I remember fondly from my own childhood. I’m looking forward to reading the rest of them myself! I also enjoy the educational philosophy of Charlotte Mason – living books, short lessons, narrations – and the SL curriculum fits it very well.

To add to all of that wonderfulness, SL is a Christian company! Which means that their books are carefully selected to represent a Christian viewpoint. I never have to worry about the content of a SL book.

However, SL is a non-Catholic company, which I guess means that they are Protestant. OK. So we’re not going to have any books about Mary or the Saints. There are going to be very few, if any, mentions of going to Mass or priests or saying the Rosary. I’m OK with that. And I have heard, though not personally experienced for myself, that some books in later Cores are misrepresent Catholicism. We are only on Core 1, so we will deal with these issues if and when then come up. I actually think that this could lead to a good discussion about our Catholic faith and how it differs from other Christians.

I was surprised recently to read that another Catholic homeschooling mom will deliberately avoid books in the SL catalog marked with an X “because they are religious, therefore Protestant.” That got me thinking. I went and looked at the SL catalog. One of their many book annotations is an X to let you know that the book is from a Christian publisher. To me, that does not necessarily equate to a religious book, but maybe that’s semantics. I looked up which books in Pre-K, K and Core 1 were labeled with an X. Some of them weren’t surprising, a couple of them I would have given an equal chance of being from a secular publisher.

In the 3 cores that we have used, I have only excluded 2 books. One was their version of Mother Goose rhymes, which they have replaced this year. I thought it needed more pictures, and substituted the Richard Scarry version instead. The other book we didn’t read was Hero Tales, a collection of biographies of Protestant heroes. The only reason I eliminated it was because it was boring! In fact, many non-Catholics on the SL Forums eliminated this book, too, for the same reasons. I actually have no problem with my children learning about any brand of Christian heroes. All are called to do God’s work and we can learn from their examples.

Actually, that is how I approach all of SL books of a religious nature. The missionary stories have been excellent in teaching my children about the people around the world. The books have sparked discussions on how to treat people of other faiths. We have prayed for many of the peoples we read about. I have yet to find any of the books to be offensive to a Catholic. My personal opinion is that to summarily dismiss a book as being Protestant would be to miss out on many wonderful stories. Most of the time, you can never even tell the denomination of the Christian group being discussed. Those missionaries could very well be Catholic.

Now one book, Leading Little Children to God, did make mention of “the Lord’s Supper”, not meaning Mass, but – and I’m guessing here- a Protestant Eucharist service. We read it together and I simply made it clear that for us, that meant going to Mass and going to communion. Just a little tweaking in one chapter in an otherwise great children’s devotional. That chapter could even be skipped.

Another book, From Abeku to Zapotec, is a book about people without the Bible in their own language. Each page has a nice picture and maybe 2 or 3 paragraphs describing their lives. That’s it. The point of the whole book is that children pray for these people, that they may get Bibles in their own language. No need to miss out on this book just because it’s labeled with an X!

When it comes to the SL books, as a Catholic, you just need to decide for yourself what you are comfortable with. I would strongly recommend buying all the SL books in a Core(it gets you a good discount) and pre-reading the ones that may be questionable. You may find yourself pleasantly surprised. If not, that’s OK, too. You will almost certainly be able to find an acceptable substitute. Or, if your children are older, you may want to read the books anyway and discuss it from a Catholic perspective.

I do add some Catholic touches to our school. I use the Seton religious education books because I’m not completely happy with the RE classes at our church. I have the Loyola Book of Saints and Book of Heroes, which I used in place of Hero Tales and on various feast days.

I don’t really feel like every single subject needs to reflect our Catholicism. Math is math is math, you know? I use Horizons Math, which SL happens to sell, because it works for our family. The same with handwriting. We’re using Handwriting Without Tears because it works. I don’t like their cursive style, though, so I was about to switch to A Reason For Handwriting. But if my son is going to learn to cursive writing out passages from scripture, he might as well use Seton’s handwriting manual and write out Catholic Catechism. I’m rethinking this, though, as he’s really struggling with cursive. We
may go back to Handwriting Without Tears. At least he’ll be legible.

With any curriculum, you need to use what works for your family and put aside what doesn’t. There are more Catholic Sonlighters than you’d think, and you can ask for their input on the SL Forums, which you can get free access to for 30 days. I found one thread there that talked about some of the issues I’ve mentioned here: Sonlight and Catholic. There is also a Catholic Sonlighters Yahoo Group. The folks on that group would be very helpful in pointing out where things should be left out, edited or discussed.

Hopefully I’ve been helpful. Please feel free to ask more questions and I’ll try to answer as best as I can.

Preparing for the Feast

Boo is finishing his final preparations before receiving his First Holy Communion. We worked together in making his banner. That was a bit tough for me – finding a balance between letting him do it himself and making sure it was going to look “good.” Part of me kept thinking, “This is his banner, his day, let him do it.” On the other hand, this banner will be displayed at church and I don’t want him looking at it and thinking it doesn’t look as good as the others.

What’s a mother to do? In the end, I asked him what he wanted the banner to look like. I sketched while he talked. I picked out the felt colors, which he approved. I drew and cut out the paper patterns, which he also approved. I asked him if he wanted to cut out the felt, he said no. He just wanted to glue the peices on, which is what he did.

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His big request was a pair of praying hands holding a real rosary. I didn’t want to put a family rosary on the banner that would have to be removed later, so I said we could make a mini one. I offered to let him string the beads, but he wanted me to do it. I did trace his own hands for the pattern, though. I think the effect turned out cool.

I had to assert parental authority over his name. The guidance issued from the Religious Ed director was that the banners need to include the child’s name. Philip and I thought it best to use his real name, a nice solid, very long, Christian name. Boo wanted his banner to say “Boo.” We carefully explained that for this important event, we should use his real name. He said that if it didn’t say “Boo”, no one would know it was his. We compromised by using his real name, with “Boo” underneath.

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It turned out exactly the way he wanted it.

Tonight was rehearsal for the big day. The First Communicants will dress the altar as part of the Mass. Our RE director, in all her wisdom, chose Boo to carry one of the lit hurricane lamp candles. It’ll be ok, right? Actually, this is a very touching part of the Mass. I took pictures during rehearsal, since they have requested no pictures during Mass.

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(That’s Boo on the left.)
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How can he be so little and so big all at the same time?

And why does the song “Sunrise, Sunset” keep playing in my head?

Happy Easter

Happy Easter! Christ is Risen, just like he said he would!

Even though being without internet service for almost a week almost killed me, the fact that the outage occurred during Holy Week was not lost on me. Sometimes I wish the Lord would speak a little louder when He wants me to do something. Sometimes He speaks loudly enough. I guess He thought I’ve been spending a bit too much time on the computer.

On Holy Thursday we got a chance to attend Mass. We’ve got a great pastor who explains many of our traditions to us. I had never realized that at Holy Thursday Mass, the Blessed Sacrament is removed from the church and that mass will not be celebrated again until the Easter Vigil. The significance of the empty church really hit me.

Pumpkin Girl has been using her new subscription to Magnifikids to follow along with not only the usual parts of the Mass, but with the readings, too. I’m hoping this helps her focus on the Mass more. I always enjoyed following the readings in the missalet as a kid. Actually, I still do, but more and more churches have stopped supplying them. I know they want us to be listening to the readings, but hey, some of us learn best by reading! Our family has a Missal that I like to use, but it’s hard to use while I’m in exile in the crying room with Bip.

I’ve actually seen a real increase in Pumpkin’s faith over the last year. She has a new notebook that she uses to write stories and draw pictures in. Most of her pictures during Holy Week were of scenes of Jesus’ life – His cruficixion and Resurrection, the story of Lazurus (complete with Him saying “Open the toom”), Jesus sleeping on the boat during the storm and the shephard going after the lost lamb. Today, while reading Leading Little Ones to Mary, I let her draw while she listened and her pictures were of the life of Mary. Well, that is, Pumpkin’s idea of the life of Mary. You know, Mary swinging from monkey bars, jumping rope and helping her teacher clean the white board.

So anyway…On Good Friday, our parish had an outdoor Stations of the Cross. The adults took turns carrying the large, wooden cross from station to station, while the children held pictures of each station. It was bitterly cold, and I felt bad for our poor pastor who came dressed as a priest, not as a soldier, so he had no hat. It was a nice to walk the stations, even if it was cold.

Saturday morning, we woke up to…
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Just ten days earlier it was 80 degrees. Gotta love Spring!

We braved the elements to go in search of dressy sandals for Pumpkin Girl. Good dressy shoes for little girls are getting as hard to find as modest clothing is. Why in the world do shoe makers think that heels on a girl of 6 is a good idea? The same shoes, heel and all, are even available for toddlers! Fortunately, we did find a suitable pair – in her size even! We then came home and decorated our Easter cookies.
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Yes, we make chicken and bunny Easter cookies. This year I took the time to explain to the children why we see things like bunnies saying Happy Easter and how we can look at these things as symbols of Christ’s Resurrection. We also talked about how some children enjoy the Easter Bunny and we should never ruin the game for them by telling them that he doesn’t really exist. However, it is OK to tell them that the Easter Bunny isn’t really what Easter is all about.

Philip went to sing in the choir for the Easter Vigil and Boo went bowling with his best friend, leaving Pumpkin Girl, Bip and I to watch “The Sound of Music” on TV. When Boo returned around 8pm, we made Resurrection cookies. We were interrupted by several loud bangs and then I remembered that Saturday was the firework display for the Cherry Blossum Festival! We grabbed coats and shoes and ran out to enjoy the rest of the fireworks!

Easter morning dawned bright and cold! The church was decorated beautifully, and this year Pumpkin Girl was well dosed with her allergy medicine, so the lilies didn’t bother her (the children insist on sitting in the front row). We sang my favorite Easter song – “Jesus Christ is Risen Today” and one that always makes me cry- “I am the Bread of Life.” We sang that one at the first Easter after Rebecca was gone. The last line – “and I will raise you up on the last day” just chokes me up. Sometimes it makes Boo cry too, so I left the crying room early to check up on him. He was fine, but he gave me a big hug, because I was not. I was fighting back sobs during the last verse. Don’t worry, I’m better now.

Back at home, we had our annual family Easter egg hunt…
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Boo Eggs

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…and dyed eggs.

One of these years I’m going to get organized enough to get those eggs dyed before Easter!

Sad News

Last year I told you about a young lady named Lindsey who was battling cancer.  I also shared with you the shawl I made for her.  I am sorry to have to say that this morning, she lost her battle and went home to the Lord.  Her passing was peaceful and she had been confident that she would be seeing Jesus.  Her courage and inner strength was truly an inspiration to those of us "watching" through the Sonlight forums.  Please pray for her family as they struggle to figure out how to live without Lindsey.

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I have fought the good fight, I have finished the course, I have kept the faith
    2 Timothy 4:7

Boo Tells It Like It Is

We’ve been studying Ancient History.  As we worked our way through Mesopotamia, it just so happened that our pastor was deployed to Iraq, right there back where it all started.  We took a look at Then and Now Bible Maps and discovered that good ol’ Father Hamel was over there near Ur and the Garden of Eden.  The children were also tickled to hear that their daddy had also rumbled all over the area in his tank back in ’91, during the First Gulf War.  They decided to ask Father Hamel upon his return if he had seen the Garden of Eden.  (When asked, he laughed and said, no, but he had seen Abraham’s house.  Pumpkin Girl’s big eyes grew even bigger.)

So last Saturday when Father began his homily speaking about the archeological dig in the ancient city of Ur, the ziggurat there, and what is believed to be Abraham’s house, I knew that  Boo and  Pumpkin Girl were paying extra close attention.  Father segued nicely into a discussion about the so-called discovery of Jesus’ bones and the documentary that would be aired the next night.  As I listened to the homily, I was thinking that Boo would probably be interested in seeing it.  He’s always up for a good documentary.  I asked him about it after mass. 

Me: "So Boo, wasn’t that cool when Father Hamel was talking about the ziggurat?"
Boo: "Oh yeah, I remember those!"
Me: "And he mentioned those two rivers we studied."
Pumpkin Girl: "The Tigris and Euphrates!"
Me: "Yes, that’s right!"
Me: "Do you want to see that movie he was talking about?"
Boo: "The one about the people that think they found Jesus’ bones?  Nah, I’m not watching that movie."
Me: "Really?  You usually like documentaries."
Boo: "TNah, I don’t want to see it."
Me: "Do you understand why those can’t be Jesus’ bones?’
Boo: (repeating what he heard Father Hamel say in the homily)"Yes, because Jesus isn’t buried here."
Me:  "Well, he was buried after he died.  But what else happened?"
Boo:"He rose again and…he ascended into heaven!!!"
Me: "Right, he ascended into heaven and he took his body with him."
Boo:  "Yeah, so that can’t be his bones. They’re just trying to suck me in."

Well said, Boo.  Sorry James Cameron, we had better things to do last Sunday than get sucked in by your claims.

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